Signs He Is a Player

To spot the signs indicating he is a player, you need to understand what a player is. A player is someone who doesn’t really take you seriously, isn’t willing to commit, and is probably frequently surrounded by several ladies. With this article, you’ll be able to tell whether or not you’re dealing with a player.

Can a Player Change?

This is very situational, and it depends on whether or not he’s willing to change. Ask yourself the following questions to determine if it’s likely or unlikely that he will change.

• Is he trying to become a better person? If he’s constantly working on himself and trying to improve himself, then he will most likely be able to leave his player tendencies behind for the right person.
• Does he prioritize you? If he can prioritize you in different aspects, such as making sure he messages you back before anyone else or that you’re on the top of his list to go out with when he has time, he will probably be able to change his player qualities.
• Does he truly want to change? Maybe he doesn’t want to be a player anymore, and he might be looking to settle down or at least experience a more serious relationship. If this is the case, he can definitely change.

14 Signs He Is a Player

These are the signs you need to look out for so you know if he’s really a player.

1. He is a calculated person.

He is likely controlling as well as calculated. He thinks one step ahead to avoid getting caught in his player tendencies.

2. He is constantly busy.

You may notice that he is constantly busy and randomly available. This is because he is always with someone else, making him busy, but randomly available whenever he doesn’t have the next girl lined up. This is when he will try reaching out and making you the next person he sees.

3. He doesn’t fully open up.

He may tell you bits and pieces of things about him or what’s going on in his life, but he never gives you the full story, or he doesn’t provide enough details about things when he chooses to share something with you. This is because the less you know, the less likely he is to screw up and get caught.

4. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends or family.

He’s not making you an important part of his life, so he’s not going to introduce you to his friends and family. Remember, a key part of him being a player is that he’s good at being sneaky and mysterious, even towards his friends and family.

5. He knows how to treat you.

Although it’s good that he treats you well, it’s almost like he treats you too well. This is tricky to differentiate from him authentically treating you well because he’ll be very good at pretending to care that he’s treating you well. You need to be good at seeing through his tricks and lies to catch this one.

6. He’s extremely friendly.

He’s very friendly with you and with anyone else he meets. It almost seems like he’s trying too hard, but he knows exactly what he’s doing. He’s especially friendly when he meets new people because he wants to be liked to have more to choose from later on.

7. He gets a lot of phone notifications.

When you’re with him, you probably notice his phone receiving a lot of messages or that he’s ignoring calls. He’ll be very secretive and private with his phone, not letting you use it or see it. This is because he doesn’t want you to catch on that you’re not the only one he’s talking to.

8. He’s mysterious.

Not only does he not open up to you, but he goes out of his way to make sure you don’t know a lot about him. He avoids giving details about his whereabouts or what he has going on that day.

9. He has a lot of girlfriends.

If most of his friends are girls, he’s probably a player. This is because he is good at talking to girls and getting them to like him, and also because a lot of them are probably in it for more than just his friendship.

10. He only talks to you when he wants to see you.

If he only texts you when he wants to see you, all he’s looking for is a hookup, and you’re being played.

11. He goes to a lot of parties.

You may notice that he goes out every weekend and that he’s always at a party. He knows that’s the ideal place to meet girls who want to have a fun night and nothing more, so don’t be surprised if your party boy turns out to be a player.

12. His social media is full of girls.

If you notice him scrolling through Instagram and his whole feed is girls and more girls, don’t hesitate to call him a player. He likely only follows and interacts with other females on the app.

13. He doesn’t delete his dating apps.

If he’s going out with you several times, but he has yet to delete his dating apps, he’s still connecting with other girls, and unfortunately, he’s not really interested in you.

14. He doesn’t really listen to you.

If he can’t retain the things you tell him, he’s not really listening to you when you tell him important things or when you open up about your personal things. This is a strong sign that he’s a player because he doesn’t want to put effort into remembering things about you.

Types of Players

Now that you know what signs to look for to identify if the guy you’re talking to is a player, figure out what type of player he is with the list below.

The Classic Player

Signs to look out for: He’s extremely flirty with anyone he meets, his friends know that he’s a player, and he’s really good at pretending he cares and can act very interested even though he really isn’t.

The Player Who Ghosts You

Signs to look out for: Before ghosting you, he’s already not great at texting you back, he doesn’t mind canceling plans with you for someone he thinks is better, he’s the guy you know the least about and has the most doubts about. Trust your gut because he’s likely going to ghost you when he gets bored.

The Cheating Player

Signs to look out for: He’s on his phone a lot because he has to keep his girlfriend thinking he’s actually into her, he pretends to not like social media because if he did, his girlfriend would expect him to post pictures with her, and all of a sudden he’ll have to drop everything with no explanation which likely means his girlfriend requires his attention.

The Emotionally Unavailable Player

Signs to look out for: He says he isn’t ready to commit to anyone, he claims he has been going through a lot of stuff or enjoying being single. If he says any of those things to you, you may want to dig a little deeper and see if he’s being authentic or if he’s really just an emotionally unavailable player tricking you into thinking that.

How a Player Makes You Fall for Him

Players can be very manipulative and want to get what they want and nothing less. Be careful with these tricky men, and be conscious of how a player makes you fall for him so you can avoid him.

• He’s very charming. Players tend to be incredibly charming, knowing exactly what to say to seem very likable. Beware of their ability to sweet talk you into anything they want.
• He makes you feel insignificant. A player will try to make you feel like you’re nothing without him, so you keep him around despite his bad habits of not focusing on one girl at a time. He needs you to need him because if not, you might be able to tell what he’s all about, and he would lose your interest.
• He’s not transparent. He’s never really himself because he needs to appear to be better than that. He’s probably really good at molding his personality into whatever he needs to be to seem more captivating to whoever he is trying to leur into his game.
• He will be manipulative. If he’s a player, he will be skilled at manipulating you into getting whatever he wants, even when it’s not what you want.

Conclusion

With this information, you should not only be able to successfully identify if the guy you’re talking to is a player but also know what type of player he is. Remember, players, are experts at disguising their true intentions and making you fall for them even when they could care less about you or your feelings. Be extra cautious if you notice any of the signs mentioned above to avoid having your feelings hurt by a player.