How to Know if a Guy Likes You

If you’ve stumbled upon this article, it’s probably because you suspect the guy you’re talking to likes you, and you’d like to confirm it. It’s no fun wondering how he really feels about you. Read below to learn how to find out if he likes you.

Signs That He Likes You

Figuring out if a guy likes you can be challenging. If you don’t want to be straightforward and simply ask him if he likes you, look for these signs to figure it out.

He texts you frequently.

If he’s texting you frequently, he makes a conscious effort to respond to your texts. He probably has a lot going on in his life but still takes time out of his day to reply to your messages. This means he has you on his mind and is probably looking forward to hearing back from you as well.

He talks about you with his friends.

If he’s talking about you in general, that says a lot, but if he’s talking about you with his friends, he cares about you. He wants them to know about you. Often if he doesn’t have strong feelings for you, he won’t care to mention you to anyone because he doesn’t see you as something that will last. So if he mentions you to his friends, he probably likes you.

He likes your social media pictures.

This could be taken as a friendly or flirty gesture. However, if he always likes and comments on your pictures, he’s probably into you. This is a good way to know if he likes you, especially if he doesn’t interact with others on social media.

He posts you on his social media.

If he posts you on his social media, he has no problem letting people know he is doing something with you. By making you public and not hiding you, he feels comfortable sharing with the world that he is interested in you.

He invites you to different events.

If he wants to take you places, he enjoys your company. He wants to be seen with you, or he at least doesn’t mind being seen with you. He also probably thinks it’s more fun to go with you than to go alone, which means he has more fun when you’re around.

He makes time for you.

Everyone has something going on. That could be class, a job, or other important life things. He definitely likes you if he has a busy schedule but still makes time to see you.

He does nice things for you.

Of course, you expect everyone to be nice and not rude, but if he is extra nice to you, he likes you. It’s the little things that will show you if he’s really interested in you.

Text Messaging Signs to Tell if He Likes You

While you are spending time with someone in person or talking to someone on the phone, it is easier to tell if they like you. This is because you can have interactions that indicate he has feelings for you more frequently than through text. However, it is important to consider these signs as well when you are determining if he likes you or not.

• He sends a ‘good morning’ and/or ‘good night’ text. If he’s making an effort to greet you every morning and every night, he totally likes you. Most guys don’t care to take the time to do this every single day if they don’t have feelings for you.
• He uses cute emojis. Cute emojis could range from lots of smiley faces to hearts, etc. If he’s not using the typical emojis, he will text his friends, and he’s into you.
• He answers quickly. If he texts back quickly, this means he wants to talk to you, and he wants you to feel important. He is showing you you have his attention, indicating he likes you.
• He’s not texting lots of girls at the same time. It’s okay to have friends and text them, but if he’s choosing not to text other girls in a flirty or more romantic way and keep that type of message just for you, he obviously likes you.
• He texts you just because. If he doesn’t have to find a reason to text you and message you just because he feels like it, you’ll be able to tell he is into you.

Why He Hasn’t Told You That He Likes You

Now that you know what signs to look out for, you might be wondering why he hasn’t told you he likes you. Perhaps he’s not ready to tell you. Another reason could be that he is unsure of his feelings, and he wants to make sure he knows exactly how he feels before possibly getting your hopes up, only to change his mind later.

He could also be afraid about what will happen after he tells you. You might be waiting for him to tell you because you feel the same way, but he might not know you feel the same way, so he could be fearful of rejection. Don’t stress about it too much. Everything happens at its own time, just be patient or simply confront him about it.

How to Ask if He Likes You

Maybe he’s sending mixed signals, or he’s not being clear about his intentions. If you notice those things happening, simply ask him if he likes you. It could feel intimidating to do this, but the worst thing is that he says no. The positive side to that is that you are not confessing your feelings in this scenario, rather simply wondering how he feels about you.

So if you are rejected, it won’t be embarrassing, and you shouldn’t feel as bad about it.

1. Find the right time to ask. You don’t just want to blurt it out randomly, that would be awkward. Find the right time, perhaps when you are alone with him, to not embarrass him if he has a harder time talking about his feelings. Also, keep in mind that if the answer is yes, you may want to have a conversation about how you feel about each other, so you want to do it somewhere you both feel comfortable talking.
2. Be calm and collected. You might be eager to know how he feels about you, especially if he has been showing signs he likes you and you are only looking for confirmation. Try to contain your excitement and stay calm and collected when you ask him if he likes you.
3. Be direct. Don’t beat around the bush when asking someone about their feelings. This could lead to misunderstandings, and that would not be good. Nicely, ask him if he likes you. Perhaps mention certain things he has done that have made you feel like he may be interested in you.
4. Prepare for the answer to be no. Hopefully, he has shown signs that he is interested in you, but if he hasn’t and you’re reading this because you need to know how to ask him for that reason, prepare for the answer to be no. Also, keep in mind that the signals you thought he was sending indicating he is interested in you could be wrong, or you could have misinterpreted them. Although no is not the answer you want to hear, prepare for its possibility.
5. Share how you feel if he confirms he likes you. If he likes you, let him know you like him back. It may seem obvious, but it’s nice to hear that from the other person as well after opening up and perhaps feeling vulnerable while doing so.
6. Talk about where to go from there. Now that you both know you like each other talk about what comes next. Will you start a relationship? Will you explore dating? Discuss what you would like to do.

Options After Finding Out He Likes You

Assuming you have been eager and curious to know if he likes you because you also have feelings for him, you may be asking yourself what happens next? Perhaps you don’t really know each other, and the best option would be to date for a little while to determine if you would like to be in a relationship.

Perhaps you have known each other for a while and are already friends, and you don’t need to date but instead jump into a relationship. The most important thing to do now is to discuss what you are both expecting after having this conversation and discuss what you would like to happen next. These are possible options:

• Proceeding to date. This is the best option for two people that still need to get each other some more. Have fun dating now that you know for sure you like each other. You will feel more comfortable than when you are dating someone without knowing they are actually interested in you.
• Starting a relationship. You don’t necessarily have to know each other a ton before jumping into a relationship. This will most likely depend on your personality and how you like to start new relationships; however, if you feel comfortable with each other and want to take it to the next level, starting a relationship is the right step for you.
• Staying friends. Timing is an important factor in many things, including this. You might like each other and want to explore being more than friends, but the timing might not be right for whatever reason. If this is the case, you’ll have to remain friends for now, and maybe you can try again when the timing is right for both of you. Maybe you like each other, but neither of you wants a relationship at the moment. In that case, talk about exploring something casual if you are both interested in being a little more than friends, but not dating or in a relationship.

Concluding

If he likes you, he’s likely trying to make it known that he likes you instead of hiding his feelings. Look out for the signs mentioned above to know how he feels. Whether you spend time with him in person or text more frequently, there are lots of little things you should look out for to know how he feels about you.

You will especially be able to tell if he is sharing you with his friends on social media, and if he is taking you out to lots of places, or maybe acting nicer than usual. Don’t get discouraged if it’s taking him a while to tell you he likes you. Remember, you can always ask him about it instead of waiting and waiting. The sooner you know, the sooner you can decide how to proceed, depending on what you both want.